Posts by stlmarriagecch

There is a story that is going viral this week that has people talking about wedding rings.  A video on TikTok has over 10 million views.  Gaby Leon tells how her husband left on a guy’s trip to Las Vegas and “accidently” left his wedding ring at home.  Gaby found the ring and confronted her husband about it.  He…

​Happy 4th of July! I want to share a story about the power of honor and value that could truly transform your marriage, regardless of your current marital situation. The story is a Polynesian legend that, no doubt, is rooted in truth. There was a Polynesian island tradition that when a man wanted to marry…

What if I told you there was one thing that you could do this week that would drastically improve the quality of your marriage, regardless of the current state of affairs? I have always been skeptical of “silver bullet” claims, and I rarely make them myself. But this one thing is so powerful and effective,…

What would happen if someone asked your child this question, “Do you think your Mom and Dad will stay together forever?” How do you think your child would respond? How they would answer the question would reflect what they have observed in your home, what they have seen with their friends and what they have…

Welcome to 2022! I hope your year is off to a great start.  By now, many people have already given up on their New Year’s resolutions and have settled into the same routine that ended 2021.  Today, I want to share a behavior that could radically improve your marriage in 2022 and I am hoping that it…

“I told her I loved her the day I married her. If anything changes, I will let her know.” “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” is a phrase that was first coined in 1830 by Alexander William Kinglake. Kinglake was an English travel writer and historian who traveled…

One of the components of creating a loving connection with your spouse is communicating and talking on a regular basis. My mentor, Mort Fertel, calls these spontaneous love connections talk charges.  A talk charge is a positive verbal interaction that is non-logistical, fun or frivolous, and potentially leads to connection. The purpose is to positively fuel…

Research suggest that couples that pray together tend to stay together!  According to an article in the June 2017 Psychology Today, research is conclusive that prayer and spirituality enhances marital commitment, decreases the risk of infidelity and increases marital satisfaction.  Couples who make faith a priority in their family tend to have a common unifier…

What if I told you there was one thing that you could do this week that would drastically improve the quality of your marriage, regardless of the current state of affairs? I have always been skeptical of “silver bullet” claims and I rarely make them myself. But this one thing is so powerful and effective, it really…

In addition to my marriage coaching practice, I have also done a great deal of work in the area of hospice and grief. I facilitate and lead several grief groups throughout the year. During these groups, I am frequently confronted with spouses who lost their partners suddenly. One of the common themes in the face…