In today’s post I want to talk about a phenomenon that creates havoc in marriages. It is known as the dreaded “mid-life crisis”. All of a sudden, as if from nowhere, your spouse comes home and announces that they are no longer in love. They even question, if they ever were in love with you. They are unhappy about everything, and apparently it is all your fault. The spouse who is in the midst of this crisis can’t seem to recall any good times in the marriage. The mid-life stricken spouse frequently trades reading glasses in for contact lens, starts dying their gray hair, and working out at the gym. If it is a guy, expensive toys with motors are frequently involved. If it is a woman, late nights with girlfriends and expensive body upgrades can be involved. All under the guise that this will make me happy. The final thing is to get a new life, by shedding the spouse. It is clearly a crisis because from the balcony of these peoples lives one can see the choices and trail of destruction that is left in its path. Men and women walk away from families, children, jobs and their marriage in pursuit of a happiness, that they now claim they have never known. If this describes your spouse, you already know how incredibly destructive and hopeless this feels. You probably have friends and family telling you to throw in the towel. You may be loosing hope. But I want to encourage you to hold on. The truth is mid-life crisis seasons come to end. They really do. Through the years I have seen men and women transition out of this destructive season in their lives and go on to have incredible marriages. In the short term remember these five rules to follow if you find your marriage in this season.
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